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Checking in With Your Child Every Day

Even though my son is not quite in kindergarten, he does attend pre-school.  As an involved parent, I make it a habit to ask my son to tell me about his day when I pick him up. My husband, his father, does also. I think this is a good habit to get into, and hopefully it will encourage my son to be open to communicating with us for years to come.Sometimes what my son has to share is little or nothing, and that’s okay. He doesn’t have to have any earth-shattering news to please me. Sometimes he tells on himself. For instance, if he did something he wasn’t supposed to and the teacher didn’t see him, he feels compelled to let me know what he did. Sometimes he is excited and he shares details of activities or experiences he had that day. Those kind of comments are the best, IMO.

While I do want to keep tabs on what’s going on in those hours my little guy is away from me, I’m also preparing him for the days when he’s older and someone does or says something that makes him uncomfortable.  I want him to want to share his thoughts and feelings with us, so we can help him sort them out.  I don’t want my son to feel like a ship lost at sea, adrift in unfriendly shark-ridden waters. I want him to always view me and his dad as the lighthouse that’s beckoning him toward a safe return.